I’m cleaning out my emotional closet – so to speak – with these last few posts.
I’m writing small snippets about big things that are a negative force in my life, in the hopes that this will clear the way for more positive posts in the coming new year.  

I’ve made great progress, though most of it is psychological rather than physical during the past 9 months of my 13 month Healthy Lifestyle journey.

I’ve only lost 20 pounds… I was hoping I could say 25, because that would be halfway to my goal of losing 60 pounds, but 20 it is, and 20 it stays.

I have established regular physical activity a few times a week as a norm in my life.  This is up significantly from NO physical activity!

I’ve all but eliminated pop, diet or otherwise from my life, and from that of my family – which I consider a great achievement.

I understand the role that food logging plays when you are trying to lose weight.  I don’t do it regularly, but it really helps when I do.

The combination of weight loss, eating better, healthier food and smaller portions, and increased exercise has greatly improved many of the things that were causing my physical pain.  My knees do not hurt anymore.  My joints ache sometimes, but much less than they used to.  My hot flashes and menopausal symptoms have eased quite a bit, and most of those I can trace back to over-drinking wine.  I haven’t improved much on that, but I think I need to hang on to at least one vice to keep me human!

So what is so negative about that you ask?  Well, nothing.  It’s just the counseling aspect of this program that has me grinding my teeth.

The three of us who are in this particular group meet every other week with a weight loss counselor.  I knew when I started this that I was by far the smallest one in the group, with the smallest amount of weight to lose – by at least 100 pounds. But I hadn’t been able to do it on my own, so at first, I felt like I could fit in.  And I did, for a while.  But when the psychological issues they had from being heavy all their lives, started to come out, I started to sense a bit of resentment from them.

This all came to a head at one of our bi-monthly meetings, after I’d obligingly answered the usual question of “What were some of your wins since we last met?”  I’d expressed my usual frustration at how slowly I was losing, when the guy member of our trio snapped at me “What the hell is it you want? You’re thin and fit, and healthy.  I’d give anything to be your weight, and you are not happy with it.”  The girl member then said, “Yeah, I think  you’ve won already.”  (like this was a competition or something).  I absolutely didn’t know what to say or how to react.  The counselor asked how that made me feel, and I wanted to punch her in the throat. This was exactly what I told her I was afraid of when I had my initial session with her.  I wondered if I would be antagonistic, or demotivating to the others.  She assured me that I wouldn’t.


Now, while I’m feeling good about the program, my progress, and the things I’ve learned – I’m totally uncomfortable and afraid to return to any of these group sessions.


  • Posted December 30, 2012 4:36 am 0Likes
    by Gary's third pottery blog

    thanks for visiting my blob, and totally excited to see what you are up to!

  • Posted December 30, 2012 9:52 am 0Likes
    by Claudia from Idiot's Kitchen

    Thanks for visiting my blog too. I'm loving the new derf unite feature so we can now see who is who. I wanted to leave you a comment on your fabulous hair in your derf photo but the comments there are off. So, FABULOUS hair! Also, I'm enjoying your writing and wanted to say that I totally understand your feeling about the group situation. I could never do any sort of group counseling for weight loss. Even weighing in at the doctor's office makes me crazy. I think that unless you have a really big amount of weight to lose, people don't take you seriously and aren't as supportive. Maybe it's the biggest loser mentality thanks to crap tv. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I understand and hang in there. – C

  • Posted December 30, 2012 2:10 pm 0Likes
    by patricia

    Good for you on your progress! Can you get a different group/counselor?

  • Posted December 31, 2012 11:58 am 0Likes
    by Janet

    I can understand how you feel…and I think it's unfair of the counselor to put you in that situation. Like patricia said, maybe another one? But! Congrats on the weight loss! I started off this year, as I did last, determined to lose at LEAST 30 pounds…but each time I get close to the 20 pound mark…I start to gain. Every year I say it will be different…and every year it's been the same. How to keep my goal? I don't know. I do know I had heartburn for the first time and it scared the crap out of me. I have a small hernia near my stoma (cancer surgery a few years ago) that losing weight would be beneficial for. And of course my knees. So…WHAT AM I WAITING FOR???

  • Posted January 2, 2013 9:14 am 0Likes
    by Jessica

    It's too bad that not everyone realizes that losing weight isn't just based on your looks! It is also a psychological journey (which you recognized by joining a group). Congrats on the weight lost though!

  • Posted January 4, 2013 9:04 am 0Likes
    by The Girl Next Door

    Wow I can't believe a counseling session could turn so mean, particularly when you all have your own battles. Congrats to you on all your changes. I keep saying I'm going to do these things as the pounds keep creeping on. You are an inspiration to remember it's changes for the long haul, not this week or this month! Although according to some I am "thin," but none of my clothes fit and you know what? I'M not happy with me – isn't that the point? Some people are happy 40+ pounds or 100+ pounds but some are not. So you keep doing what's good for YOU!!! And cheers. Also – thanks for stopping by my blog!

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